Here's a post by Jack Bauer off MASF on gaame
Haven't posted much in a while, so I figured I'd post the list of rules that I use to refresh my memory and remind me of the way that I like to run super-effective game.
Most of what's in here is Inner Game stuff; mindsets, attitudes, and beliefs that bring out the best in me. Game isn't about becoming someone else. It's about letting out the best parts of what's already there in you.
I hate indirect game because it pre-supposes that she has higher value than you and would react negatively if you hit on her. This is a limiting belief and it's bullshit. I hate routines because it pre-supposes you have to act like a fucking monkey to MAKE HER want to sleep with you. Again, bullshit...she's biologically programmed to fuck the Alpha male...you ARE the Alpha male, so what the fuck do you need routines for? Just show your status and let nature take it's course. Everything that follows is based around this philosophy.
Everything outside the brackets is the actual text that I use and review for myself. Reading it over I realized that a lot of it requires elaboration, so that's in the brackets. This is the best of the best stuff I've compiled from 3.5 years on mASF, and all of it is massively, massively field-tested. Hopefully, some of you will find it useful. Credit for these ideas is all over the place; lots goes to Franco, Kwag, OE, GP, and Neo-Rio.
You guys all kick ass.
1. See how TRON is LIVIN!!!! [This is an anchor designed to put me into a pumped, hilarious, manic state. Use something that works for you; something that makes you laugh every time and fills you with that crazy energy. For me, all I have to do is say these words, and I'm in that "zone". For those of you who don't know this one, see the Real World episode of Chappelle's Show, season One. ]
2. Absolute faith and joy; life kicks ass. [You must be as sure of achieving your goals as you are that your house will still be there when you get home. This takes work; definite, daily work. Know what you want, spend time every day visualizing it, and doing whatever you need to do on a daily basis so that you RESPECT yourself and walk around in a state of total FAITH and CONFIDENCE. All those shit-tests that women throw at you, THIS is what they're testing for; your own certainty and confidence that you make things happen in the world.]
3. YOU are the chooser. YOU are the prize. Every woman is aching for an Alpha like you to come into her life. Know it. The Alpha gets to fuck whoever he wants.
4. Everyone gets a chance. Everyone gets a sexual fantasy. Everyone gets included. Make people feel amazing; discover what is wonderful about them, whether you're into them or not. You can always be pleasantly surprised. [A HUGE part of my Inner Game is to gaze into a woman's left eye and sexually fantasize about her, and I do this with every woman I meet, even if she looks like Ichabod Crane. Everyone gets a fantasy...everyone gets a chance to show their stuff, to show what makes them special. I think this is very close to what Ijjjji talks about in his posts on Appreciation. See guys, all the stuff about negs and breaking women down is designed to equalize the value; it assumes that HER value is higher than yours, and then knocks her down a few pegs so that the two of you are on equal footing. If this works for you, then great. But I have SO COMPLETELY internalized the idea that I am the Prize and I am the Leader that to start negging people right off the bat is just RUDE. I work with a LOT of movie stars in my career and I can tell you that they go around making EVERYONE feel amazing, and they can do so because their value is off-the-charts high. THAT is why they�re stars.]
5. Think sex. She just wants to be bent over. Keep it sexual. The "Super Good Girl" only exists in fairy tales; every woman wants sex more than you do. They need it, and an Alpha male should think that's a BEAUTIFUL thing. Female sexuality is amazing, so encourage women to express it, explore it...see how deep the rabbit hole goes. [Whoever you're talking to, whoever your girlfriend is, she's nastier and hornier than you, and thinks about sex WAAAYYY more often. Trust me. You don't see men spending thousands of dollars on make-up and breast implants.]
6. Know you are always the Leader. Empower people, bring them together, and include everyone. [This is really important. You can't just game your target; you must game the whole group. You must include her friends. You must LOVINGLY, CHARMINGLY take leadership over everyone.] Facilitate everyone's good time by having impeccable manners. Look out for people. [Know everyone's name and what they're about. Find out what you have in common. Be a gentleman; giving a girl your coat because you're trying to fuck her is lame. Doing it because you're the Alpha male and you look out for your tribe is fucking SEXY. Understand the difference.] Have a plan that creates fun, amazing opportunities. [You must have a plan. You must have a fun, cool outcome in mind and gently guide everyone into it. In every group, someone is the Leader; you're either leading or you're being lead. Don't be uptight about this! It's enough to have a plan and know you're the leader; if you're strong in that reality, everyone else will get sucked in.] Keep your Rank. [This is KEY. It's very, very rare that someone overtly challenges my leadership of the group, but when they do, you must keep your Rank. Do not do ANYTHING that will lower it. Challenges to your leadership should be FUNNY to you, like when a 4-year-old girl tells her Daddy what to do. Daddy doesn't get mad, he just laughs and hugs her cause it's so cute, and then does what he wants. This is how you handle it.] If anyone fucks with one of your people, CRUSH THEM. [This is more about an attitude than anything else. I'm an expert martial artist even though I never get in fights, and I believe that if you have enough game to get girls then you should be verbally skilled enough to defuse just about any situation. HOWEVER, if someone fucks with one of your people, you must be mentally prepared to KNOCK THEM OFF THE FUCKING PLANET. The entire purpose of the Alpha male, the reason for his existence, is to lead the group and guard their safety, so if you don't have the balls to bear your fangs and put someone's head through the wall, you have no business claiming leadership over the group. You're a paper tiger. You're Jimmy fucking Carter. Instead, be Julius Caesar ready to burn cities to the ground to protect your people.]
7. Put a price to your leadership by always putting people to do things for you. [Don't forget this. Compliance, compliance, compliance. Expect people to pull their weight, the way a General would.]
8. Treat women like gold from a dominant frame. They already belong to you. Make them feel great. Never treat a woman like a man; it's a huge insult. [It feels really shitty when a woman you're attracted to looks at you like her dickless girlfriend, so don't do that to women! I don't care if she's been your best friend since you were six; she is a woman, and you are a man, and anything can happen. You must relate to her as a sexual being, even if you're not interested. You must validate her as a woman, even if you're not interested. You must fantasize about fucking her while you're talking to her, even if you're not interested. Maintain the sexual context.] Always keep it sexual, and MAKE A MOVE. You must go for it, that means making it really obvious you want her, once she qualifies. Isolate, escalate, penetrate...again and again.
9. Zero in on a target and isolate as quickly as possible. [Once you've got the whole group, you pick someone and isolate, fast.] Then Rapport. Slow. Way. Down. Sexual fantasy. Eye contact. She is your whole world. [As killswitch would say, make her your entire AR.] Focus on PROCESS; make her rich describe the states you want her to be in. This is how resistance is overcome. "What's it like when..." [Quick example; I'm talking to a girl who's like a fucking brick wall. She just won't open up to me. I only get a few perfunctory details about how she's in an acting class. I ask: "What kind of exercises do you do in there?" She then mentions some bullshit exercise they do designed to free you up and release your impulses on stage. Bingo. I ask: "Really? That sounds interesting...so what does it feel like when you're doing that?" As she describes the state of performing that exercise, she experiences the same feeling of being "free" and "open" that the exercise creates...and then she GOES INTO that state. BAM! She opens up after that. This is much more effective than saying some bullshit like, "Wow...you're not that open of a person, are you?" Why do that when you can have her describe something that creates the state that you want? Then you deepen it by Rich Describing (credit: Franco) the whole thing back to her in stronger terms: "Wow...that must feel so amazing, to be up on that stage, filled with all that excitement and nervous energy just tingling up your spine...etc."]
10. Elicit Values; get that life story, and know what it means. Know the kind of woman you're dealing with, and whether you want her for FB, LTR, mLTR, etc. You don't go to Kinko's to buy a fucking piano, and you don't go to a strip club to find your future wife. [You must find out what's important to her in a relationship, and then validate those things as a reward for opening up to you. DAFS if you don't get this. You must find out her relationship with her mother, her father, and a little about her relationship history. This will give you the ROAD MAP to seducing her, and is ABSOLUTELY necessary for screening. Watch out for EFA's at this point (again, DAFS for Franco's legendary post on EFA's for more on this.)]
11. SOI!!! When she does something sexy, you look right into her eyes and tell her so. [Just like that; "Oh my God...when you crinkle your nose like that, it's so fucking sexy! Oh, there it is again!"]
12. ESCALATE: Establish physical comfort by touching right away and then always pushing the envelope. It is your job as a man. The coolest way to escalate is to do it while talking about something totally mundane, i.e. "Who do you think you're going to vote for?" (hand up the skirt).
13. REWARDS AND PUNISHMENTS: REWARD her for opening up to you; give her validation and relate to what she's saying. Show more interest when someone gives you what you want, and PUNISH by putting your interest elsewhere when she doesn't. [Read that sentence again, guys. When she's giving you what you want, she gets MORE interest, more interaction. When she's not, your interest goes someplace else...this is the logic behind everything from backturns to not calling for two weeks. AFC's CLING TIGHTER when they don't get what they want. Alphas move on to someone else; you're the Leader...people are either contributing, or they're out in the fucking cold.]
14. Don't care what she's thinking or about the content of what she's saying. Her state is what matters to you. Use pre-suppositions. [Totally ignore the logical content of everything she's saying. Its meaningless bullshit. I believe that you need a lot of field experience to really understand how true this is.]
15. Its her job as a woman to test your Frame. Every Test is an IOI; she wants to control you and she's horny cause she can't. [(credit: Kwag)] It's not just enough to blow it off, you have to blow it off and escalate. Laugh about it, ignore it, put her fucking hand on your cock, make her suck it, and then put her to do something for you.
16. Control that 101...make her feel great, but never let her feel she has you completely. The moment she stops wondering just how much you like her, it's all over. The tension comes from believing she might lose you, so make her believe it. Every woman is a 6 (Franco). Never let her ask, "How much do I want him?" because she's always wondering "How much does he want me?" (Ijjjji).
17. PPP: Playful Push/Pull. Bust them on the things they're totally confident of, and build them up on the things they're insecure about. [i.e., Give models a chance to show you that they're brilliant and outgoing, and then validate that...but then tell them their hair is too short, or a mess, or their perfume is too strong, or that you don't date models anymore because they're boring. This creates challenge because the things she's 100% confident about (i.e. her looks) aren't going to work on you, so she needs to use her brain (which she's insecure about). But it's MUCH more rewarding for her when you finally DO validate her mind precisely BECUASE she's way insecure about it.] Again, and again, and again. The whip and the rose...but playful! Just relax, and have fun with it. [The playful part is key. You're teasing, having fun, making her laugh...you're not tearing her down, here. As Franco says, a good PUA has a whip in one hand and a rose in the other, and constantly switches back and forth between the two. It's a great image.]
18. Be balls out real. Impudence. Rules are for other people. [Another quintessential quality of movie stars is that when they decide they want something, they will go balls to the wall to get it. They are a fucking FORCE OF NATURE. Develop this quality in yourself by SMASHING THROUGH your inhibitions.]
19. Keep your Frame tight; don't do Boyfriend-type activities with an FB. It's just rude. [My idiot friend just cooked dinner for his FB's Mom, and now she's freaking out because he doesn't want a relationship. His totally incongruent behavior has fucked the whole thing.]
20. Never give a fuck. Nothing is a big deal. Never care what she's thinking. What kind of man gets all bent out of shape over some work-trash ho? (credit: Player Supreme, obviously...who the fuck else would say that?) The Alpha male can fuck whoever he wants to. Just go grab someone new.
21. Re-game her again and again; never stop giving great emotions, great push/pull, great fun, and GREAT fucking. Remember, the moment she knows she has you, without any problems or challenges, her interest starts to wane. [You have to sing for your supper, guys. You have to re-game her again and again. Regardless of what kind of "arrangement" you guys have, if you don't make her horny, you ain't getting any.]
Hope some of you find this useful, I review it every day and it's cracked things wide open for me. Love to hear feedback.
Jack
Credit - Jack Bauer MASF
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Saturday, 19 January 2008
Sunday, 13 January 2008
The apocalypse opener
Balls out direct game opener from Ciaran, RSD staff
Chat up lines don't work. That's the main problem with them.
I mean, we all know this. If there was a simple line you could just spiel out and get a girl, the community wouldn't be as big as it is.
The fact is, getting a girl isn't really about what you say. It's about what you DEMONSTRATE and what you PROJECT.
HOWEVER...
What if there WAS a chat up line that did work? What if there was a chat up line that led to an instant makeout? What then?
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER
What I am about to share with you is some potent fucking shit.
Do you understand?
Good.
When I showed this to Jeffy, he took one look at it, then nodded, and said "That's some potent fucking shit."
My point is this.
If you cannot handle doing Shock and Awe, you are not ready for this shit yet.
This is NOT a magic pill.
If you are a broken fucking value taking Gollum-like chode who wants to 'get one over' on women and life, who wants to seek petty vengeance for the myriad grudges that you nurse on a daily basis to justify the uselessness of your pathetic existence... this will not work.
How do I know this?
Because I've been that chode.
Get your inner game sorted.
I recommend the work of Eckhart Tolle.
So with no further ado, gents, here we go. I hope you're sitting comfortably.
THE BEST CHAT UP LINE I EVER HEARD
About 18 months ago I was in the smoking area of a pub on Edinburgh's Royal Mile. It's very picturesque. There's a castle and everything. Anyway, this time I'm out with just ONE girl. She's a good friend of mine, and for matters of convenience and privacy, we shall call her Susan.
So me and Susan are chatting away, and the subject wanders on to chat-up lines. I asked her what the worst chat-up line she ever heard was and she gave me some chodely horror-story of unimaginable lameness.
Then I asked her
"So... what's the best chat up line you've ever heard?"
Susan considered this for a while, and then said this:
"Ok, this one guy had a great one a while back. It worked on me."
"What do you mean, it worked on you?"
"It worked. I banged him."
"Nice. You're very ladylike."
Susan smiled politely.
"So what was it?" I asked.
THE APOCALYPSE OPENER...
"Well," she said, "it goes like this...
What she then told me made me literally choke on my beer. It was genius. I will never know who this man is, but whoever he is he deserves a prize. A big, shiny Nobel prize.
Here it is, lads:
You rock up to a chick and, in a confident, level voice you say
"Hey, how's it going."
She will say
"Fine."
You then say
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say
"I'm not sure."
You then say
"Do you want to come home with me?"
Then you hold.
Hold.
HOLD....................
HOLD IT MY SON..........................
HOLD THE FUCKING LINE..................
Boom. Makeout.
And that's the Apocalypse opener. You don't 'build rapport.' You don't 'elicit values.' You don't 'kino escalate.' You don't even ask her fucking NAME. You ask if she wants to sleep with you in the THIRD SENTENCE, hold the line, and reap the whirlwind.
CIARAN, YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME
Nope. It is and remains the most amazingly powerful chat up line I've ever seen in my life. I realise that you're all just shaking your heads with a million problems that you can see with doing this, so let's go through this step-by-step.
DOES IT WORK?
Well, let me tell you a story.
After hearing this, I resolved to give it a go. I went out to a bar that night, and walked about the place.
Now, at this point I wasn't by any means a Jedi, but I wasn't shit. I could consistently open, I could flirt, I could get the occasional makeout. What I'm saying is that I'd gotten to a point where I could approach without that much anxiety.
Dude, I was shitting my pants. Mother of God, man. Looking at all these beautiful women, just the thought of going up to one of them and coming OUT with this shit was terrifying. I sank pint after pint of booze. I walked around some more. I drank more booze. I lurked in the corner for a while. I was still shitting my pants without a SINGLE approach when the bouncers started herding people out the door.
Fuck. I'd missed my chance.
No. No, no, no. No way. Not me. Not now. I was going to do this. If I crashed out, if I messed up, whatever - I'd take the pain. I was going to say this. Honestly, it felt like my VERY FIRST APPROACH all over again. I was really, really scared.
I walked out of the bar into the milling crowd. Fuck it. I'm going to do this. Someone. Anyone.
And there she was. Delicate, like a fairy almost. Red hair, really rich and deep red, and a quirky dress that melted my heart.
Fuck.
Fuckitty fuck fuck. We're going in.
Ok, Ciaran. Concentrate on getting the first line out. That's not so bad.
"Hey" I blurt.
"Hey." She's even prettier close up. DO IT, CIARAN. DO IT!!
"How's it going?"
"Not bad."
"What are you up to later?"
"Not sure."
DO IT MAN!! EYE OF THE TIGER!!
"Do you want to come home with me?
She looks at me. She's gauging. I've never felt attention this intense. It's like a laserbeam scorching me for any signs of incongruence. Luckily enough, she's hot, so there aren't any. The urge to say something, to break the tension is PALPABLE. I CLAMP my jaw tight shut to silence myself.
She sways backward, stunned. Then she jumps me. Physically lunges forward and puts her tongue in my mouth.
BAM.
Incidentally, there was a guy there - a very strong natural - who had been hitting on her all evening, and had got her to agree to come back to his (I found this all out later). Didn't matter. Blew him the fuck away with this ONE SENTENCE.
This girl wasn't a slut. She wasn't a freak. She was a cool, normal chick.
She was hot too. Really hot.
Nice.
TREMBLE BEFORE THE COMING APOCALYPSE
So why does this work? Is it magic?
Well actually, there's no magic here. It's all really simple, and rests on EXACTLY the reason I gave at the start of the article for why chat-up lines don't work.
It's not about what you say.
It's about what you DEMONSTRATE and what you PROJECT.
Let's go back to that sunny afternoon on Edinburgh. I'm in the smoking area, talking to Susan.
So anyway, I finish choking on my beer.
"What? He said what?"
"Do you want to come home with me."
And what did you do?
"Well, I didn't jump him straight away, but I was just really impressed that he had the balls to come out with something like that."
"Yeah. Wow, that certainly is an impressive introduction."
"Damn straight. After that all he needed to do was just maybe buy me a drink or something and I was his."
"Cool."
"Yup."
So let's look at this, straight from the horses' mouth. So to speak.
She was REALLY IMPRESSED that he had the BALLS to COME OUT with something like that.
REALLY IMPRESSED
The power of this opener is massive. It lies in the fact that it is HONEST. It is genuine to the turbo-max.
All of my 'game' is based around this principal. Be genuine, but be genuine times 1000. Don't just 'be yourself', fucking BE yourself. Be yourself to the motherfucking HILT.
Do you understand?
She will NEVER HAVE HEARD ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE.
If you do this, a girl will be really impressed that you DEMONSTRATE the courage to say this. And believe me, you cannot fake it. This shit takes balls.
BALLS
I'm not going to lie to you. It is SCARY doing the Apocalypse Opener.
But that's good. That's WHY it works.
Because it is genuinely scary, it is INCREDIBLY impressive. But you need the balls to come out with it.
COME OUT WITH IT
At the same time, your delivery itself - and here's the crazy thing - is actually NOT THAT IMPORTANT.
I know. Nuts.
The truth is, the first time I said this I was SCARED. Really, really scared.
It still worked.
It's so powerful. You don't need to be amazing, and you don't need the inner game of the Fonz to attempt this. I didn't have much inner game at all when I started reeling it out.
All you need to do is NOT CRUMBLE.
That is all. Just come out with it, then don't crumble.
THE KEY TO MAKING IT WORK
The key to making it work is not how you say it, but what you do in the 30 seconds after it's left your mouth.
Before I talk specifics, let's state the single CARDINAL SIN of the Apocalypse, which is the ONLY THING that can blow you out.
NEVER BE WEIRD
That's it. Don't be weird. You have to deliver the opener deadpan. Like you are talking about the WEATHER. You are not making a BIG THING of it. You're just ASKING.
You are not MOCKING. You are not JOKING. You are not TOO SERIOUS.
It is NOT PLAYFUL however - it is REAL.
You are REALLY ASKING HER.
If she says no - you only need ONE COMEBACK.
It is this:
"Ok."
Then you strike up a 'normal' conversation about the colour of the wallpaper, or the music that's playing, or the fact that you did your laundry earlier today.
Whatever.
HOW DO I KNOW IF IT'S WORKED?
You will know because you will see two things in that girl's eyes.
Shock, motherfucker. SHOCK and AWE.
If she looks shocked, you've got her. If she looks stunned, she's yours. If she takes it in her stride, she's the coolest cucumber in the world, and you should probably marry her. extremely fast.
WAIT, CIARAN! WHAT IF IT BACKFIRES?
It never backfires as long as you don't panic.
That's right - there is only ONE THING you must NOT DO while using the Apocalypse Opener...
And that is to lose your shit like a fucking pussy.
I know. Crazy. As long as you aren't weird, or creepy, it never backfires.
But REMEMBER.
You are not trying to PERSUADE HER TO SLEEP WITH YOU.
This is so UTTERLY CRUCIAL I am going to write it in red letters.
You are not trying to PERSUADE HER TO SLEEP WITH YOU.
You are just putting the OPTION in front of her. If she says no, you say 'ok' and talk about your nephew's new pet dog. Or whatever.
If you do this in a creepy or sleazy way, you will be shot down like a blind, 96-year old German who doesn't know the war's ended, doing a strafing run on a US Destroyer-Class Battleship in a Messerschmitt Me 262.
That is to say, extremely quickly.
So DO NOT ATTEMPT to ENTICE her into sleeping with you.
This is important NOT JUST in the vibe of the line itself (where, again, it is absolutely crucial). It is important in what comes after.
WHOA, WHOA, WHOA. WHAT IF SHE DOESN'T JUMP ME?
She'll only jump you, in my experience, about 30-50% of the time.
Equally, this is a MASSIVE percentage for ONE LINE.
However, the other 50-70% of the time, she will not jump you. Not for at least 6 or 7 minutes.
This is FINE. Just chill out. She will be testing you for signs of neediness but remember - all you need to do is talk about the WEATHER.
You do not need to do anything else to ATTRACT her. That phase is OVER. She will be stunned by what you said. Now all you need to do, and I cannot OVERSTRESS this, is ACT NORMAL.
This is, incidentally, the only place where it is ENTIRELY APPROPRIATE for you to buy her a drink, for three reasons:
1: It shows you are normal
2: It acts a kind of 'token wooing' to sate her girly ego
3: It shows you are normal
Ok?
Just ACT NORMAL for the love of God. Talk about anything. She will be SUPER-INTO-YOU. She just wants to know you're not a serial killer before she takes you home.
I THINK THAT IT ONLY SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD IDEA FOR DRUNK CHICKS AT CLOSING TIME
Then you're a pussy.
I've opened girls on the street with it. Successfully. They don't normally jump you, but they do find it fun, cool and engagingly forward. And sometimes they jump you.
It works brilliantly in a bar or club, but you don't need to save it to the end of the evening unless you're looking for a good night out. After a while (I'm not kidding, this really happens) it gets kind of frustrating when you want a night out with your friends and you keep getting dragged off by chicks.
No, really.
Anyway, you can do this anywhere. You can open with it at the start of the night. You can open with it at the end of the night.
Incidentally, I have never had a bad reaction from a woman when doing this. Ever. Even if you accidentally slip into sleaze, she'll just walk off, but this rarely happens.
This one hooks like a motherfucker.
The other thing is this- if she walks off in shock, do not follow her. Let her go. She'll be back in about 15 seconds. Maximum 60.
DO YOU STARE AT HER AFTER YOU ASK?
You never stare. You look. Empty your mind, young grasshopper. Read the Power Of Now. You lock eyes with her. That is all - but then again I would argue that you lock eyes with her all the time. In fact, I would argue that you lock eyes with everyone you interact with in your entire life.
Just look at her. Calm. Level. Like your question is completely normal and in context. She will break.
IF SHE SAYS 'NO' AND I JUST STICK IN THERE, WILL SHE COME AROUND?
Yes.
In fact, it is awesome when she says no... because it gives you an opportunity to demonstrate a reality stronger than cobalt steel.
Here's what you do.
If she says no, you say "ok" in the same tone of voice as if you had offered her a prawn cocktail crisp and she had said "no thank you." Then you ask her what she thought of Pirates of the Caribbean 3 or something.
Or you talk about the burger you had for breakfast or what the weather was like last tuesday or what-fucking-ever.
In 10 minutes (tops) she'll be on your face.
SHOULD I DO THIS IN FRONT OF HER FRIENDS?
No.
You CANNOT do this if a girl is within earshot of her friends. If it's a club, you can do it with only a few feet of distance between her and her mates because of the loud noise.
The important thing is that she feels that it is a private exchange for EXACTLY the reason you think. If you do this in front of her mate she will look at you like you're scum and blow you out.
Amazingly, this never, ever happens, ever, if she is on her own.
Chicks.
Gotta love em.
WHAT IF I STARED AT HER BOOBS? WOULD THAT WORK?
No. Remember - this is COOL. You deliver this in the same tone as if you're asking about the weather. Not a throwaway line, mind...
Just a genuine, totally normal, direct question.
Boom, mofos.
SOUNDS LIKE IT'S GOOD FOR ONE NIGHT STANDS... BUT YOU COULDN'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE OF THESE CHICKS, COULD YOU?
Of course you can. Stop asking stupid questions.
You can start a relationship off a purely sexual one night stand no problem.
As Tim once said - there's a time and a place for emotional connection.
After sex.
CAN I WAIT FOR A FEW MINUTES INTO THE CONVERSATION TO USE THE LINE?
NO.
It loses power and effectiveness rapidly the longer you wait to say it.
The power and impact of this derives from the fact that you are balls out opening with the option of sex.
You can say it later, of course - and she might not freak out. You may get a makeout, and it will increase attraction as long as you can hold your shit and cope with fallout - but if you do it later she also might just bolt.
If you're looking for an instant hook up, do this fast.
I THINK LOOKS WILL MATTER HERE. (JUST MY 2 CENTS)
Your two cents are worthless.
Dude, I'm not here to debate abstract concepts of female attraction and how they relate to looks.
I'm telling you that this works regardless of what you look like, because that is what I have seen, over and over again, with my own eyes.
Quasimodo could pull this off if he had big enough balls.
I don't care if you believe me. This works. I know because I've done it, I've seen others do it.
At no point have looks ever been even an incidental factor in the success of this line.
I have consistently pulled model hot chicks with this while looking like a tramp.
Anyone who thinks looks matter... even in the slightest... when it comes to being good with girls, is a fucking pussy ass chode. If you think differently, you are a chode, and your opinion is irrelevant.
Now sit in the corner, and think about what you've done.
FAIR ENOUGH, LOOKS DON'T MATTER. BUT I'M STILL STRUGGLING WITH THE BELIEF THAT ANY SOBER GIRL WOULD FUCK A GUY ON THE SAME NIGHT SHE MEETS HIM.
Hahahahaha! Oh! AHAHAHA! OOOOOOH!
*pants*
OOOOOOOOHOHOHOHO!
AHAHAHAHA!
Ahahahaha.
Haha.
Hee.
Hoo.
Hnnnnnnnnng.
They will dude. Your beliefs are irrelevant. They will.
Oh yes.
They will.
GROUP APOCALYPSE
Rock up to two chicks and say exactly the same thing, with this interesting twist:
"Hey, how's it going."
They will say
"Fine."
You then say
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
They will say
"I'm not sure."
You then say
"What are the chances of you two coming back to mine for a threesome?"
Then you hold.
Hold.
HOLD....................
HOLD IT MY SON..........................
HOLD THE FUCKING LINE..................
Boom.
That 'Boom' incidentally, is the heart of the S+A system.
It's where you see it in a girl's eyes. Shock, and awe.
It is the most rewarding thing you'll ever see after years in the wasteland being ignored by women. Most men go their whole lives and never see it. It's amazing. After you've seen it a few times it changes you, changes your whole outlook on life. It's like something connects, deep inside you. Some long-lost circuit. After I'd done this a couple of times my whole voice changed, became more resonant. It was awesome.
So that, my friends, is the Apocalypse Opener. The only chat-up line I ever found that actually works. I've spoken about it at length, because I want to hammer home one point.
It works. It's not THAT hard to do. You DO NOT NEED to be amazing at this to pull this off. If you can blurt it out and hold your nerve, you can do this.
Now get out there, and nail this shit to the ground.
'Jealous girlfriend' my hairy white ass.
Peace out
(Credit - Ciaran RSD)
Chat up lines don't work. That's the main problem with them.
I mean, we all know this. If there was a simple line you could just spiel out and get a girl, the community wouldn't be as big as it is.
The fact is, getting a girl isn't really about what you say. It's about what you DEMONSTRATE and what you PROJECT.
HOWEVER...
What if there WAS a chat up line that did work? What if there was a chat up line that led to an instant makeout? What then?
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER
What I am about to share with you is some potent fucking shit.
Do you understand?
Good.
When I showed this to Jeffy, he took one look at it, then nodded, and said "That's some potent fucking shit."
My point is this.
If you cannot handle doing Shock and Awe, you are not ready for this shit yet.
This is NOT a magic pill.
If you are a broken fucking value taking Gollum-like chode who wants to 'get one over' on women and life, who wants to seek petty vengeance for the myriad grudges that you nurse on a daily basis to justify the uselessness of your pathetic existence... this will not work.
How do I know this?
Because I've been that chode.
Get your inner game sorted.
I recommend the work of Eckhart Tolle.
So with no further ado, gents, here we go. I hope you're sitting comfortably.
THE BEST CHAT UP LINE I EVER HEARD
About 18 months ago I was in the smoking area of a pub on Edinburgh's Royal Mile. It's very picturesque. There's a castle and everything. Anyway, this time I'm out with just ONE girl. She's a good friend of mine, and for matters of convenience and privacy, we shall call her Susan.
So me and Susan are chatting away, and the subject wanders on to chat-up lines. I asked her what the worst chat-up line she ever heard was and she gave me some chodely horror-story of unimaginable lameness.
Then I asked her
"So... what's the best chat up line you've ever heard?"
Susan considered this for a while, and then said this:
"Ok, this one guy had a great one a while back. It worked on me."
"What do you mean, it worked on you?"
"It worked. I banged him."
"Nice. You're very ladylike."
Susan smiled politely.
"So what was it?" I asked.
THE APOCALYPSE OPENER...
"Well," she said, "it goes like this...
What she then told me made me literally choke on my beer. It was genius. I will never know who this man is, but whoever he is he deserves a prize. A big, shiny Nobel prize.
Here it is, lads:
You rock up to a chick and, in a confident, level voice you say
"Hey, how's it going."
She will say
"Fine."
You then say
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say
"I'm not sure."
You then say
"Do you want to come home with me?"
Then you hold.
Hold.
HOLD....................
HOLD IT MY SON..........................
HOLD THE FUCKING LINE..................
Boom. Makeout.
And that's the Apocalypse opener. You don't 'build rapport.' You don't 'elicit values.' You don't 'kino escalate.' You don't even ask her fucking NAME. You ask if she wants to sleep with you in the THIRD SENTENCE, hold the line, and reap the whirlwind.
CIARAN, YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME
Nope. It is and remains the most amazingly powerful chat up line I've ever seen in my life. I realise that you're all just shaking your heads with a million problems that you can see with doing this, so let's go through this step-by-step.
DOES IT WORK?
Well, let me tell you a story.
After hearing this, I resolved to give it a go. I went out to a bar that night, and walked about the place.
Now, at this point I wasn't by any means a Jedi, but I wasn't shit. I could consistently open, I could flirt, I could get the occasional makeout. What I'm saying is that I'd gotten to a point where I could approach without that much anxiety.
Dude, I was shitting my pants. Mother of God, man. Looking at all these beautiful women, just the thought of going up to one of them and coming OUT with this shit was terrifying. I sank pint after pint of booze. I walked around some more. I drank more booze. I lurked in the corner for a while. I was still shitting my pants without a SINGLE approach when the bouncers started herding people out the door.
Fuck. I'd missed my chance.
No. No, no, no. No way. Not me. Not now. I was going to do this. If I crashed out, if I messed up, whatever - I'd take the pain. I was going to say this. Honestly, it felt like my VERY FIRST APPROACH all over again. I was really, really scared.
I walked out of the bar into the milling crowd. Fuck it. I'm going to do this. Someone. Anyone.
And there she was. Delicate, like a fairy almost. Red hair, really rich and deep red, and a quirky dress that melted my heart.
Fuck.
Fuckitty fuck fuck. We're going in.
Ok, Ciaran. Concentrate on getting the first line out. That's not so bad.
"Hey" I blurt.
"Hey." She's even prettier close up. DO IT, CIARAN. DO IT!!
"How's it going?"
"Not bad."
"What are you up to later?"
"Not sure."
DO IT MAN!! EYE OF THE TIGER!!
"Do you want to come home with me?
She looks at me. She's gauging. I've never felt attention this intense. It's like a laserbeam scorching me for any signs of incongruence. Luckily enough, she's hot, so there aren't any. The urge to say something, to break the tension is PALPABLE. I CLAMP my jaw tight shut to silence myself.
She sways backward, stunned. Then she jumps me. Physically lunges forward and puts her tongue in my mouth.
BAM.
Incidentally, there was a guy there - a very strong natural - who had been hitting on her all evening, and had got her to agree to come back to his (I found this all out later). Didn't matter. Blew him the fuck away with this ONE SENTENCE.
This girl wasn't a slut. She wasn't a freak. She was a cool, normal chick.
She was hot too. Really hot.
Nice.
TREMBLE BEFORE THE COMING APOCALYPSE
So why does this work? Is it magic?
Well actually, there's no magic here. It's all really simple, and rests on EXACTLY the reason I gave at the start of the article for why chat-up lines don't work.
It's not about what you say.
It's about what you DEMONSTRATE and what you PROJECT.
Let's go back to that sunny afternoon on Edinburgh. I'm in the smoking area, talking to Susan.
So anyway, I finish choking on my beer.
"What? He said what?"
"Do you want to come home with me."
And what did you do?
"Well, I didn't jump him straight away, but I was just really impressed that he had the balls to come out with something like that."
"Yeah. Wow, that certainly is an impressive introduction."
"Damn straight. After that all he needed to do was just maybe buy me a drink or something and I was his."
"Cool."
"Yup."
So let's look at this, straight from the horses' mouth. So to speak.
She was REALLY IMPRESSED that he had the BALLS to COME OUT with something like that.
REALLY IMPRESSED
The power of this opener is massive. It lies in the fact that it is HONEST. It is genuine to the turbo-max.
All of my 'game' is based around this principal. Be genuine, but be genuine times 1000. Don't just 'be yourself', fucking BE yourself. Be yourself to the motherfucking HILT.
Do you understand?
She will NEVER HAVE HEARD ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE.
If you do this, a girl will be really impressed that you DEMONSTRATE the courage to say this. And believe me, you cannot fake it. This shit takes balls.
BALLS
I'm not going to lie to you. It is SCARY doing the Apocalypse Opener.
But that's good. That's WHY it works.
Because it is genuinely scary, it is INCREDIBLY impressive. But you need the balls to come out with it.
COME OUT WITH IT
At the same time, your delivery itself - and here's the crazy thing - is actually NOT THAT IMPORTANT.
I know. Nuts.
The truth is, the first time I said this I was SCARED. Really, really scared.
It still worked.
It's so powerful. You don't need to be amazing, and you don't need the inner game of the Fonz to attempt this. I didn't have much inner game at all when I started reeling it out.
All you need to do is NOT CRUMBLE.
That is all. Just come out with it, then don't crumble.
THE KEY TO MAKING IT WORK
The key to making it work is not how you say it, but what you do in the 30 seconds after it's left your mouth.
Before I talk specifics, let's state the single CARDINAL SIN of the Apocalypse, which is the ONLY THING that can blow you out.
NEVER BE WEIRD
That's it. Don't be weird. You have to deliver the opener deadpan. Like you are talking about the WEATHER. You are not making a BIG THING of it. You're just ASKING.
You are not MOCKING. You are not JOKING. You are not TOO SERIOUS.
It is NOT PLAYFUL however - it is REAL.
You are REALLY ASKING HER.
If she says no - you only need ONE COMEBACK.
It is this:
"Ok."
Then you strike up a 'normal' conversation about the colour of the wallpaper, or the music that's playing, or the fact that you did your laundry earlier today.
Whatever.
HOW DO I KNOW IF IT'S WORKED?
You will know because you will see two things in that girl's eyes.
Shock, motherfucker. SHOCK and AWE.
If she looks shocked, you've got her. If she looks stunned, she's yours. If she takes it in her stride, she's the coolest cucumber in the world, and you should probably marry her. extremely fast.
WAIT, CIARAN! WHAT IF IT BACKFIRES?
It never backfires as long as you don't panic.
That's right - there is only ONE THING you must NOT DO while using the Apocalypse Opener...
And that is to lose your shit like a fucking pussy.
I know. Crazy. As long as you aren't weird, or creepy, it never backfires.
But REMEMBER.
You are not trying to PERSUADE HER TO SLEEP WITH YOU.
This is so UTTERLY CRUCIAL I am going to write it in red letters.
You are not trying to PERSUADE HER TO SLEEP WITH YOU.
You are just putting the OPTION in front of her. If she says no, you say 'ok' and talk about your nephew's new pet dog. Or whatever.
If you do this in a creepy or sleazy way, you will be shot down like a blind, 96-year old German who doesn't know the war's ended, doing a strafing run on a US Destroyer-Class Battleship in a Messerschmitt Me 262.
That is to say, extremely quickly.
So DO NOT ATTEMPT to ENTICE her into sleeping with you.
This is important NOT JUST in the vibe of the line itself (where, again, it is absolutely crucial). It is important in what comes after.
WHOA, WHOA, WHOA. WHAT IF SHE DOESN'T JUMP ME?
She'll only jump you, in my experience, about 30-50% of the time.
Equally, this is a MASSIVE percentage for ONE LINE.
However, the other 50-70% of the time, she will not jump you. Not for at least 6 or 7 minutes.
This is FINE. Just chill out. She will be testing you for signs of neediness but remember - all you need to do is talk about the WEATHER.
You do not need to do anything else to ATTRACT her. That phase is OVER. She will be stunned by what you said. Now all you need to do, and I cannot OVERSTRESS this, is ACT NORMAL.
This is, incidentally, the only place where it is ENTIRELY APPROPRIATE for you to buy her a drink, for three reasons:
1: It shows you are normal
2: It acts a kind of 'token wooing' to sate her girly ego
3: It shows you are normal
Ok?
Just ACT NORMAL for the love of God. Talk about anything. She will be SUPER-INTO-YOU. She just wants to know you're not a serial killer before she takes you home.
I THINK THAT IT ONLY SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD IDEA FOR DRUNK CHICKS AT CLOSING TIME
Then you're a pussy.
I've opened girls on the street with it. Successfully. They don't normally jump you, but they do find it fun, cool and engagingly forward. And sometimes they jump you.
It works brilliantly in a bar or club, but you don't need to save it to the end of the evening unless you're looking for a good night out. After a while (I'm not kidding, this really happens) it gets kind of frustrating when you want a night out with your friends and you keep getting dragged off by chicks.
No, really.
Anyway, you can do this anywhere. You can open with it at the start of the night. You can open with it at the end of the night.
Incidentally, I have never had a bad reaction from a woman when doing this. Ever. Even if you accidentally slip into sleaze, she'll just walk off, but this rarely happens.
This one hooks like a motherfucker.
The other thing is this- if she walks off in shock, do not follow her. Let her go. She'll be back in about 15 seconds. Maximum 60.
DO YOU STARE AT HER AFTER YOU ASK?
You never stare. You look. Empty your mind, young grasshopper. Read the Power Of Now. You lock eyes with her. That is all - but then again I would argue that you lock eyes with her all the time. In fact, I would argue that you lock eyes with everyone you interact with in your entire life.
Just look at her. Calm. Level. Like your question is completely normal and in context. She will break.
IF SHE SAYS 'NO' AND I JUST STICK IN THERE, WILL SHE COME AROUND?
Yes.
In fact, it is awesome when she says no... because it gives you an opportunity to demonstrate a reality stronger than cobalt steel.
Here's what you do.
If she says no, you say "ok" in the same tone of voice as if you had offered her a prawn cocktail crisp and she had said "no thank you." Then you ask her what she thought of Pirates of the Caribbean 3 or something.
Or you talk about the burger you had for breakfast or what the weather was like last tuesday or what-fucking-ever.
In 10 minutes (tops) she'll be on your face.
SHOULD I DO THIS IN FRONT OF HER FRIENDS?
No.
You CANNOT do this if a girl is within earshot of her friends. If it's a club, you can do it with only a few feet of distance between her and her mates because of the loud noise.
The important thing is that she feels that it is a private exchange for EXACTLY the reason you think. If you do this in front of her mate she will look at you like you're scum and blow you out.
Amazingly, this never, ever happens, ever, if she is on her own.
Chicks.
Gotta love em.
WHAT IF I STARED AT HER BOOBS? WOULD THAT WORK?
No. Remember - this is COOL. You deliver this in the same tone as if you're asking about the weather. Not a throwaway line, mind...
Just a genuine, totally normal, direct question.
Boom, mofos.
SOUNDS LIKE IT'S GOOD FOR ONE NIGHT STANDS... BUT YOU COULDN'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE OF THESE CHICKS, COULD YOU?
Of course you can. Stop asking stupid questions.
You can start a relationship off a purely sexual one night stand no problem.
As Tim once said - there's a time and a place for emotional connection.
After sex.
CAN I WAIT FOR A FEW MINUTES INTO THE CONVERSATION TO USE THE LINE?
NO.
It loses power and effectiveness rapidly the longer you wait to say it.
The power and impact of this derives from the fact that you are balls out opening with the option of sex.
You can say it later, of course - and she might not freak out. You may get a makeout, and it will increase attraction as long as you can hold your shit and cope with fallout - but if you do it later she also might just bolt.
If you're looking for an instant hook up, do this fast.
I THINK LOOKS WILL MATTER HERE. (JUST MY 2 CENTS)
Your two cents are worthless.
Dude, I'm not here to debate abstract concepts of female attraction and how they relate to looks.
I'm telling you that this works regardless of what you look like, because that is what I have seen, over and over again, with my own eyes.
Quasimodo could pull this off if he had big enough balls.
I don't care if you believe me. This works. I know because I've done it, I've seen others do it.
At no point have looks ever been even an incidental factor in the success of this line.
I have consistently pulled model hot chicks with this while looking like a tramp.
Anyone who thinks looks matter... even in the slightest... when it comes to being good with girls, is a fucking pussy ass chode. If you think differently, you are a chode, and your opinion is irrelevant.
Now sit in the corner, and think about what you've done.
FAIR ENOUGH, LOOKS DON'T MATTER. BUT I'M STILL STRUGGLING WITH THE BELIEF THAT ANY SOBER GIRL WOULD FUCK A GUY ON THE SAME NIGHT SHE MEETS HIM.
Hahahahaha! Oh! AHAHAHA! OOOOOOH!
*pants*
OOOOOOOOHOHOHOHO!
AHAHAHAHA!
Ahahahaha.
Haha.
Hee.
Hoo.
Hnnnnnnnnng.
They will dude. Your beliefs are irrelevant. They will.
Oh yes.
They will.
GROUP APOCALYPSE
Rock up to two chicks and say exactly the same thing, with this interesting twist:
"Hey, how's it going."
They will say
"Fine."
You then say
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
They will say
"I'm not sure."
You then say
"What are the chances of you two coming back to mine for a threesome?"
Then you hold.
Hold.
HOLD....................
HOLD IT MY SON..........................
HOLD THE FUCKING LINE..................
Boom.
That 'Boom' incidentally, is the heart of the S+A system.
It's where you see it in a girl's eyes. Shock, and awe.
It is the most rewarding thing you'll ever see after years in the wasteland being ignored by women. Most men go their whole lives and never see it. It's amazing. After you've seen it a few times it changes you, changes your whole outlook on life. It's like something connects, deep inside you. Some long-lost circuit. After I'd done this a couple of times my whole voice changed, became more resonant. It was awesome.
So that, my friends, is the Apocalypse Opener. The only chat-up line I ever found that actually works. I've spoken about it at length, because I want to hammer home one point.
It works. It's not THAT hard to do. You DO NOT NEED to be amazing at this to pull this off. If you can blurt it out and hold your nerve, you can do this.
Now get out there, and nail this shit to the ground.
'Jealous girlfriend' my hairy white ass.
Peace out
(Credit - Ciaran RSD)
Wednesday, 9 January 2008
Shock and awe
First post being uploaded to the site. Brilliant article on Direct Game by someone I think is going to be one of the leading lights of the PU world pretty soon. Ciaran, who's just joined the RSD team. (He's written one of the best threesome PU's Ive ever read, and will try to put that up soon)
SHOCK AND AWE
There's a myth in this underground world we inhabit that if you sleep with a girl within minutes of meeting her, that's not solid game.
On the one hand, I agree.
If you fluke out once in a while and find some random chick who's just looking to get laid, that's not you - that's just luck.
Some guys will harp on about how great they are at getting girls because it happens to them once in a blue moon.
I speak from experience. I too was once a deluded chode.
HOWEVER.
What if it's not every once in a while?
What if you can pull chicks in minutes, consistently. And not munters (US translation: warpigs) mind. What if you can consistently pull stunning girls, rapidly?
Is that solid game?
In this article I will sketch out a detailed map of how to pull off "Fool's Mate" pickups with consistency and panache.
Are you sitting comfortably?
Then I'll begin.
The Best Natural I Ever Met
When I decided that I was going to get good with women, I was broke. I had no money, and I had no friends.
I'd gotten fired from my fancy job in the sandstone maze of London's Square Mile, and I was in debt. I moved to Edinburgh because I couldn't afford London rent, and I slept on my sister's couch until I found a job.
The job I found was bartending. It was good, easy work. After the nightmarish stress of the financial sector, it felt like heaven.
Besides, it also meant that I'd be talking to lots of girls.
That was good, but the real benefit I got from taking that job was a guy called Andy.
I thank God every day that my path crossed with Andy's.
Andy was amazing.
He was just jaw-dropping. He wasn't ugly, but he wasn't particularly good looking. He was an engineering student who worked in a bar.
I have never seen a man pull that well.
We became friends, and as I worked at approaching and approaching, I started to improve.
Ultimately though, it was Andy that made me great.
You see, I'd fucked around with 'indirect' game, but found it weak, pointless, unnatural. Direct game was different. Powerful, exciting, real. I found my results getting better and better.
But I was nothing compared to Andy.
You see, Andy didn't date. Ever. He didn't date, he didn't buy girls drinks, he didn't call them, he NEVER took phone numbers.
At the age of 21, he'd already slept with over 150 women.
Engineering student.
Bartender.
Andy's Secret - Reverse Engineered
One day I asked him a question. I'd just gotten tested in a massive way by this hot Swedish chick, and completely crashed out.
I ran the test by Andy. It was this:
"You just want to bang me, don't you?"
I offered several responses - Play it hard to get. Play it cocky. Play it sweet.
Andy just laughed at me. Then he said this: "You know what I'd have said? I'd have said - heck yeah. I'll bang you in every hole you've got."
He said it with a beaming grin on his face, laughing as he said it. Not joking as he said it, mind - that's important. Laughing, but not joking.
I thought about this for a time, then I began to use it. Not his line, but his attitude.
Amazingly, it worked. Even while I was testing this shit out, I'd rarely get blown out. And my results skyrocketed.
Toward the end of my singledom, before I met my beautiful girlfriend, I would walk out of the house alone, walk into the first busy bar I saw, walk up to the hottest chick in the room,
pull her, take her home and fuck her.
I would do this consistently, without getting blown out. One approach per night. 100% success.
Believe me or don't, I don't care. It is true. I used to do it to show off to all my friends.
In the end, even Andy couldn't match me.
What I am about to tell you is real. For all intents and purposes gentlemen, this is hot off the press.
Note: SHOCK and AWE is not high risk. It sounds like it is, but it's really not - and I'll explain why in a moment.
It's not even advanced. I'd call it intermediate. If you can open, and you can get attraction, and you can chill out and chat with a chick and not get weird - you can do this.
It is not a quick fix solution for hopeless newbies.
Sorry.
If you're having problems stringing a sentence together, if your body language sucks, if you have bad VOICE PROJECTION (this, as Jeffy points out, is crucial to all game) - this will not work.
However, if you're plateauing somewhere in the intermediate stages, (or if you just hate getting phone numbers like I do) this might be EXACTLY what you need.
Shock and Awe is, very simply, something I developed out of showing too much interest when I was closing a chick down so I could kiss her/grab her and leave/whatever.
I developed a very specific kind of statement of intent that covers your back socially while allowing you to come out with the most outrageous stuff - stuff that gets her very horny, very
fast.
I'd use principles from this to sex up the vibe of a conversation with a chick if it was getting dull. The point is though, you don't need to do that.
I realised that you can open with it. You can open, and then drop straight into a continual SOI loop and close a chick straight down very fast. It's a kind of vibe, you can feel when you've hit it because it's electric. You can just go ape from the outset and drive her crazy, then take her home.
Basically, being open about your desire and BLAMING THE CHICK for being hot is dynamite.
Toward the end of my pickup rampage I had developed a whole new kind of game around doing just this one thing.
I called it Shock and Awe, because it is shocking, awesome, and if you nail it you can pull a chick extremely quickly. It's mental. I love it. I stopped doing it for a while because it got
boring.
No, really.
The final thing to understand before we get to the nitty gritty of what to do is this:
You're stating your DESIRE.
This is a whole 'nuther level of important. There's not "I intend to sleep with you" or "I am interested in you". This is you talking about your DESIRE alone. That is all. How hot she is. How sexy she is. How awesome her body is.
Just pure sex, right from the outset. To map the basic structure of Shock and Awe it would be:
1) Approach with a statement of intent, then SOI stack, blaming her hotness for your actions.
Make sure they are creative and funky statements. Think of it like jazz. SOI jazz. Free form, just go for it. Say anything. It's not important. What is important is that you blame her for
being hot. Say something like "Excuse me, but what? What do you want? Do you want me to just walk on by? I mean, you're absolutely stunning. Do you want me to just pretend like that doesn't effect me? I mean, how? I'm just some guy. I can't turn it off. What are you trying to do to me, woman?" etc....
2) Always be escalating physically, always always always.
Blame her for the fact you can't keep your hands off her. Act like you're trying to keep your hands of her and you just can't.
Blame her more. Ask her why she's doing this to you. Physically fight your urge to touch her, and make this conflict OBVIOUS. You are a wild animal STRAINING against a tight leash. You're in control... but BARELY.
Don't fake this. Really get into this headspace. Ozzie's recent post on the Wild Man is EXACTLY what you need to do here.
3) Express desire, do this relentlessly and blame her for it.
Tell her you deserve a gold star for effort for not jumping all over her. Keep it funny, but make sure the vibe is highly erotic.
Remember - LAUGHING, NOT JOKING. Tell her that if she doesn't stop being hot you're not going be held responsible. Tell her to eat a load of pies, and gain 5 stone so you can connect with her personality without wanting to tear all her clothes off.
4) If you push it too far, apologise for the disrespect and not the action.
Genuinely apologise. Really. Actually do this and FUCKING MEAN IT. But remember - ONLY apologise for the DISRESPECT. NEVER apologise for the ACTION. Then tell her you did it because she's really hot. Blame her for being hot. Tell her she should wear a
bag over her head so you can have a normal conversation with her.
5) Go to step 2.
You can basically do this until she breaks. It's great.
Just remember guys, use a condom.
Honest to God, have consistently pulled hot chicks with this. It's not infallible, but it's hilarious and it blows through all the crap.
This is also how you NEUTALIZE ALL RISK associated with being so extreme.
You just say something like "No - no, this is ridiculous. I'm going to find out who you are. You can't do this to me. I have depth. Tell me about yourself."
And then they do (either that or they demand to know who you are, but it's all in good fun) and boom, you're chatting. It acts like an explosive, funny, charming opener.
It's all about the vibe, about magnifying the vibe.
And the vibe is generated from the fact that she's so sexy she's breaking you down, but you're resisting. That's where the tension comes from.
How Important Is It To Blame HER For Your Extreme Actions?
This is the heart of it. You are talking direct, but you're blaming her hotness for your directness.
As such, it's like two different levels of compliment, both of which are highly unusual and extremely difficult to resist.
You're basically telling her it's totally out of character for you to behave like this and you're fighting it, but you're really, really struggling.
This isn't an academic issue. This frame is how you avoid 'antislut defense' when going for a Fool's Mate. The frame is, she is breaking down your resolve with her hotness. This is
massive. Why?
Because it defuses so many negative things.
First off, her ASD can't really kick in. Why not? Because she's not doing anything, and neither are you. You're just complimenting her. No girl is going to walk away from someone
just because he says she's hot, not unless she's a nutter.
Secondly, it's a female fantasy. She's the femme fatale, destroying your resistance. The more fight you put up, the more resistance to her you express, and the more you lose this battle, the more she feels sexy.
Don't You Need Zen-Master Levels Of Calibration?
No. You just have to be "not completely wack."
Look - fair enough, calibration is important, but calibration does not mean hesitation. You should be leading the encounter.
Lead it. It goes where you go. You're the man.
Won't This Break Too Many Social Rules?
That's WHY it works.
Yes - seriously.
The fact that you blame her means that she has to justify it as not being her fault.
But how can she do that? Is she going to say "I'm not that hot?"
No. She is a woman. She will, instead, love it.
It's a female fantasy, she's annihilating you with her looks alone. You're resisting but she's breaking you down.
They love it. Seriously, it's great.
Do I Have To Go For Broke Every Time I Use This?
No. You can drop out of it any time with the line I gave you earlier
Also, this doesn't have to be used as such a high-octane thing.
Try dropping a little of it in here and there. See what happens.
Learn to calibrate it. The vibe you want is half sexy mocking, half pure sex.
It is all about that vibe.
It's amazing how well this attitude defuses all the negative things about being really direct with girls.
And once you've defused them, boom - you can basically cut through all the tactics and just blast her with desire until she breaks.
What If I Run Out Of Things To Say?
A big part of this is about getting creative with your compliments. I don't want to give too many actual examples of stuff, mainly because the stuff you say doesn't have to be da
vinci.
This is NOT a routine-based method.
It is a direct method, a way of cultivating an attitude of non-weird, engaging, sexual expression. You can do it high octane and go for the Fool's Mate, or you can do it low-octane and just drop Shock and Awe SOI's in as and when in the context of chatting up a lovely young lady.
So If I Do This Will A Chick Just Jump Me?
If you do it right, very often she will, yes. HOWEVER - it's impossible to predict who will and who won't.
Depends on a million things. It can be very rapid, or it can take a while.
The beauty of this is that if it seems like she's not just in the mood to leap all over you, you can drop the S+A and just have a chat. Again, that line to segue into a more normal (though highly charged conversation is...
"no, you're not going to break me. I have depth. I'm going to get to know you properly, and there's nothing you can do about it. Tell me about yourself."
WOW! This Sounds Amazing! Finally! The Magic Pill!
Nope. It's not a magic pill. As I said, this will only work for guys who are already reasonably comfortable with approaching.
If you're looking at this thinking "Awesome - now I don't have to do all those tricky approaches" then you're heading for a fall.
This takes balls.
Ok?
You need to grow balls, and you can only do that by approaching lots and lots of chicks and becoming cool with approaching.
Understand?
It's not a technique as much as it is a mode of sexual expression. I mapped out the stages just to give you a feel of what to do, but I hope you guys can see that this isn't a
tactical thing. This is what happens when you say "bugger tactics" and just go for it.
I originally came out with this on a chick who was just ludicriously hot, amazing eyes, dress, legs, face, teeth, ears, nasal hair - the works. I was in an absolutely chipper mood,
nimbus aglow, just on top form.
I opened by telling her that it was ridiculous to expect me to just walk on by with her looking like that. She smiled, so I kept on saying the same kind of thing. Next thing I know she's kissing me.
What I'm saying is that this has to be genuine. Direct game, if not genuine, is seedy, manipulative weirdness.
S+A is a vibe. It is a route of expression.
The inner game stuff, the practise - all that jazz, is the iceberg. This is the tip.
This is not a short cut.
It's just not a massive detour, which a lot of highly tactical systems are. I'm certain that if you've never done anything like this before it is scary, so just understand that there are
several elements to this that go on behind the scenes.
One is your general abilities of self-expression and creative speech. This is something that Jeffy explains brilliantly, so read his stuff, copy it, buy the Jeffy Show and watch it
constantly. The other big part of it is sexual expression, for which I'd also recommend The Jeffy Show, Foundations or Transformations (Ozzie is really bang on here, as is Tim).
Closing Statements
Shock and Awe is the pinnacle of direct game as I practice it.
No nonsense, no tactics, just straight in there, make a girl feel really sexy, have great fun with her, be cool, go back to your/her place and do the hunka-chunka. Problem solved.
This isn't about tricking girls into stuff, or playing them. If you try that, you'll fail, and I will personally batter you senseless with your own shoes.
This is about refusing to be a leaf in the hurricane.
This is about being the hurricane, gentlemen.
Be the hurricane.
(Credit-Ciaran (RSD staff))
SHOCK AND AWE
There's a myth in this underground world we inhabit that if you sleep with a girl within minutes of meeting her, that's not solid game.
On the one hand, I agree.
If you fluke out once in a while and find some random chick who's just looking to get laid, that's not you - that's just luck.
Some guys will harp on about how great they are at getting girls because it happens to them once in a blue moon.
I speak from experience. I too was once a deluded chode.
HOWEVER.
What if it's not every once in a while?
What if you can pull chicks in minutes, consistently. And not munters (US translation: warpigs) mind. What if you can consistently pull stunning girls, rapidly?
Is that solid game?
In this article I will sketch out a detailed map of how to pull off "Fool's Mate" pickups with consistency and panache.
Are you sitting comfortably?
Then I'll begin.
The Best Natural I Ever Met
When I decided that I was going to get good with women, I was broke. I had no money, and I had no friends.
I'd gotten fired from my fancy job in the sandstone maze of London's Square Mile, and I was in debt. I moved to Edinburgh because I couldn't afford London rent, and I slept on my sister's couch until I found a job.
The job I found was bartending. It was good, easy work. After the nightmarish stress of the financial sector, it felt like heaven.
Besides, it also meant that I'd be talking to lots of girls.
That was good, but the real benefit I got from taking that job was a guy called Andy.
I thank God every day that my path crossed with Andy's.
Andy was amazing.
He was just jaw-dropping. He wasn't ugly, but he wasn't particularly good looking. He was an engineering student who worked in a bar.
I have never seen a man pull that well.
We became friends, and as I worked at approaching and approaching, I started to improve.
Ultimately though, it was Andy that made me great.
You see, I'd fucked around with 'indirect' game, but found it weak, pointless, unnatural. Direct game was different. Powerful, exciting, real. I found my results getting better and better.
But I was nothing compared to Andy.
You see, Andy didn't date. Ever. He didn't date, he didn't buy girls drinks, he didn't call them, he NEVER took phone numbers.
At the age of 21, he'd already slept with over 150 women.
Engineering student.
Bartender.
Andy's Secret - Reverse Engineered
One day I asked him a question. I'd just gotten tested in a massive way by this hot Swedish chick, and completely crashed out.
I ran the test by Andy. It was this:
"You just want to bang me, don't you?"
I offered several responses - Play it hard to get. Play it cocky. Play it sweet.
Andy just laughed at me. Then he said this: "You know what I'd have said? I'd have said - heck yeah. I'll bang you in every hole you've got."
He said it with a beaming grin on his face, laughing as he said it. Not joking as he said it, mind - that's important. Laughing, but not joking.
I thought about this for a time, then I began to use it. Not his line, but his attitude.
Amazingly, it worked. Even while I was testing this shit out, I'd rarely get blown out. And my results skyrocketed.
Toward the end of my singledom, before I met my beautiful girlfriend, I would walk out of the house alone, walk into the first busy bar I saw, walk up to the hottest chick in the room,
pull her, take her home and fuck her.
I would do this consistently, without getting blown out. One approach per night. 100% success.
Believe me or don't, I don't care. It is true. I used to do it to show off to all my friends.
In the end, even Andy couldn't match me.
What I am about to tell you is real. For all intents and purposes gentlemen, this is hot off the press.
Note: SHOCK and AWE is not high risk. It sounds like it is, but it's really not - and I'll explain why in a moment.
It's not even advanced. I'd call it intermediate. If you can open, and you can get attraction, and you can chill out and chat with a chick and not get weird - you can do this.
It is not a quick fix solution for hopeless newbies.
Sorry.
If you're having problems stringing a sentence together, if your body language sucks, if you have bad VOICE PROJECTION (this, as Jeffy points out, is crucial to all game) - this will not work.
However, if you're plateauing somewhere in the intermediate stages, (or if you just hate getting phone numbers like I do) this might be EXACTLY what you need.
Shock and Awe is, very simply, something I developed out of showing too much interest when I was closing a chick down so I could kiss her/grab her and leave/whatever.
I developed a very specific kind of statement of intent that covers your back socially while allowing you to come out with the most outrageous stuff - stuff that gets her very horny, very
fast.
I'd use principles from this to sex up the vibe of a conversation with a chick if it was getting dull. The point is though, you don't need to do that.
I realised that you can open with it. You can open, and then drop straight into a continual SOI loop and close a chick straight down very fast. It's a kind of vibe, you can feel when you've hit it because it's electric. You can just go ape from the outset and drive her crazy, then take her home.
Basically, being open about your desire and BLAMING THE CHICK for being hot is dynamite.
Toward the end of my pickup rampage I had developed a whole new kind of game around doing just this one thing.
I called it Shock and Awe, because it is shocking, awesome, and if you nail it you can pull a chick extremely quickly. It's mental. I love it. I stopped doing it for a while because it got
boring.
No, really.
The final thing to understand before we get to the nitty gritty of what to do is this:
You're stating your DESIRE.
This is a whole 'nuther level of important. There's not "I intend to sleep with you" or "I am interested in you". This is you talking about your DESIRE alone. That is all. How hot she is. How sexy she is. How awesome her body is.
Just pure sex, right from the outset. To map the basic structure of Shock and Awe it would be:
1) Approach with a statement of intent, then SOI stack, blaming her hotness for your actions.
Make sure they are creative and funky statements. Think of it like jazz. SOI jazz. Free form, just go for it. Say anything. It's not important. What is important is that you blame her for
being hot. Say something like "Excuse me, but what? What do you want? Do you want me to just walk on by? I mean, you're absolutely stunning. Do you want me to just pretend like that doesn't effect me? I mean, how? I'm just some guy. I can't turn it off. What are you trying to do to me, woman?" etc....
2) Always be escalating physically, always always always.
Blame her for the fact you can't keep your hands off her. Act like you're trying to keep your hands of her and you just can't.
Blame her more. Ask her why she's doing this to you. Physically fight your urge to touch her, and make this conflict OBVIOUS. You are a wild animal STRAINING against a tight leash. You're in control... but BARELY.
Don't fake this. Really get into this headspace. Ozzie's recent post on the Wild Man is EXACTLY what you need to do here.
3) Express desire, do this relentlessly and blame her for it.
Tell her you deserve a gold star for effort for not jumping all over her. Keep it funny, but make sure the vibe is highly erotic.
Remember - LAUGHING, NOT JOKING. Tell her that if she doesn't stop being hot you're not going be held responsible. Tell her to eat a load of pies, and gain 5 stone so you can connect with her personality without wanting to tear all her clothes off.
4) If you push it too far, apologise for the disrespect and not the action.
Genuinely apologise. Really. Actually do this and FUCKING MEAN IT. But remember - ONLY apologise for the DISRESPECT. NEVER apologise for the ACTION. Then tell her you did it because she's really hot. Blame her for being hot. Tell her she should wear a
bag over her head so you can have a normal conversation with her.
5) Go to step 2.
You can basically do this until she breaks. It's great.
Just remember guys, use a condom.
Honest to God, have consistently pulled hot chicks with this. It's not infallible, but it's hilarious and it blows through all the crap.
This is also how you NEUTALIZE ALL RISK associated with being so extreme.
You just say something like "No - no, this is ridiculous. I'm going to find out who you are. You can't do this to me. I have depth. Tell me about yourself."
And then they do (either that or they demand to know who you are, but it's all in good fun) and boom, you're chatting. It acts like an explosive, funny, charming opener.
It's all about the vibe, about magnifying the vibe.
And the vibe is generated from the fact that she's so sexy she's breaking you down, but you're resisting. That's where the tension comes from.
How Important Is It To Blame HER For Your Extreme Actions?
This is the heart of it. You are talking direct, but you're blaming her hotness for your directness.
As such, it's like two different levels of compliment, both of which are highly unusual and extremely difficult to resist.
You're basically telling her it's totally out of character for you to behave like this and you're fighting it, but you're really, really struggling.
This isn't an academic issue. This frame is how you avoid 'antislut defense' when going for a Fool's Mate. The frame is, she is breaking down your resolve with her hotness. This is
massive. Why?
Because it defuses so many negative things.
First off, her ASD can't really kick in. Why not? Because she's not doing anything, and neither are you. You're just complimenting her. No girl is going to walk away from someone
just because he says she's hot, not unless she's a nutter.
Secondly, it's a female fantasy. She's the femme fatale, destroying your resistance. The more fight you put up, the more resistance to her you express, and the more you lose this battle, the more she feels sexy.
Don't You Need Zen-Master Levels Of Calibration?
No. You just have to be "not completely wack."
Look - fair enough, calibration is important, but calibration does not mean hesitation. You should be leading the encounter.
Lead it. It goes where you go. You're the man.
Won't This Break Too Many Social Rules?
That's WHY it works.
Yes - seriously.
The fact that you blame her means that she has to justify it as not being her fault.
But how can she do that? Is she going to say "I'm not that hot?"
No. She is a woman. She will, instead, love it.
It's a female fantasy, she's annihilating you with her looks alone. You're resisting but she's breaking you down.
They love it. Seriously, it's great.
Do I Have To Go For Broke Every Time I Use This?
No. You can drop out of it any time with the line I gave you earlier
Also, this doesn't have to be used as such a high-octane thing.
Try dropping a little of it in here and there. See what happens.
Learn to calibrate it. The vibe you want is half sexy mocking, half pure sex.
It is all about that vibe.
It's amazing how well this attitude defuses all the negative things about being really direct with girls.
And once you've defused them, boom - you can basically cut through all the tactics and just blast her with desire until she breaks.
What If I Run Out Of Things To Say?
A big part of this is about getting creative with your compliments. I don't want to give too many actual examples of stuff, mainly because the stuff you say doesn't have to be da
vinci.
This is NOT a routine-based method.
It is a direct method, a way of cultivating an attitude of non-weird, engaging, sexual expression. You can do it high octane and go for the Fool's Mate, or you can do it low-octane and just drop Shock and Awe SOI's in as and when in the context of chatting up a lovely young lady.
So If I Do This Will A Chick Just Jump Me?
If you do it right, very often she will, yes. HOWEVER - it's impossible to predict who will and who won't.
Depends on a million things. It can be very rapid, or it can take a while.
The beauty of this is that if it seems like she's not just in the mood to leap all over you, you can drop the S+A and just have a chat. Again, that line to segue into a more normal (though highly charged conversation is...
"no, you're not going to break me. I have depth. I'm going to get to know you properly, and there's nothing you can do about it. Tell me about yourself."
WOW! This Sounds Amazing! Finally! The Magic Pill!
Nope. It's not a magic pill. As I said, this will only work for guys who are already reasonably comfortable with approaching.
If you're looking at this thinking "Awesome - now I don't have to do all those tricky approaches" then you're heading for a fall.
This takes balls.
Ok?
You need to grow balls, and you can only do that by approaching lots and lots of chicks and becoming cool with approaching.
Understand?
It's not a technique as much as it is a mode of sexual expression. I mapped out the stages just to give you a feel of what to do, but I hope you guys can see that this isn't a
tactical thing. This is what happens when you say "bugger tactics" and just go for it.
I originally came out with this on a chick who was just ludicriously hot, amazing eyes, dress, legs, face, teeth, ears, nasal hair - the works. I was in an absolutely chipper mood,
nimbus aglow, just on top form.
I opened by telling her that it was ridiculous to expect me to just walk on by with her looking like that. She smiled, so I kept on saying the same kind of thing. Next thing I know she's kissing me.
What I'm saying is that this has to be genuine. Direct game, if not genuine, is seedy, manipulative weirdness.
S+A is a vibe. It is a route of expression.
The inner game stuff, the practise - all that jazz, is the iceberg. This is the tip.
This is not a short cut.
It's just not a massive detour, which a lot of highly tactical systems are. I'm certain that if you've never done anything like this before it is scary, so just understand that there are
several elements to this that go on behind the scenes.
One is your general abilities of self-expression and creative speech. This is something that Jeffy explains brilliantly, so read his stuff, copy it, buy the Jeffy Show and watch it
constantly. The other big part of it is sexual expression, for which I'd also recommend The Jeffy Show, Foundations or Transformations (Ozzie is really bang on here, as is Tim).
Closing Statements
Shock and Awe is the pinnacle of direct game as I practice it.
No nonsense, no tactics, just straight in there, make a girl feel really sexy, have great fun with her, be cool, go back to your/her place and do the hunka-chunka. Problem solved.
This isn't about tricking girls into stuff, or playing them. If you try that, you'll fail, and I will personally batter you senseless with your own shoes.
This is about refusing to be a leaf in the hurricane.
This is about being the hurricane, gentlemen.
Be the hurricane.
(Credit-Ciaran (RSD staff))
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